I Am A Soldier’s Mother

Thank you C. G.  for writing this heartfelt poem.

I am a soldier’s mother; I sometimes march alone
And yet I stand with many, trying to be strong.

You may not recognize me as you pass me on the street;
I may look like any other that you by chance might meet.

Like any mother, in a lot of ways I still remain,
But watching my son become a soldier brought a forever change.

For deep down inside where you cannot see
My own battle rages that’s as real as it can be.

It starts with feeling pride in all he has become,
But often worry creeps in before the day is done.

Then there is his absence that never will seem right –
The days without a word that causes many sleepless nights.

And at the sight of another soldier, my heart skips a beat,
For it reminds me of my own, and that face I’d love to see.

And I have a deeper sense of the sacrifices our heroes make;
I can see the hardships on the families – the loneliness, the heartache.

But in spite of all that’s raging, this mother’s love holds strong
As I’m wrapped in God’s peace and comfort and given strength to go on.

© C. G.

army mom strong


  1. Melodie Hatfield says


  2. says

    I loved this poem and how this site helps moms . Another site will open soon – warmamas.com – wherein moms can send in their story videos. Will let you know when this finally happens. Thank you and keep up the amazing work you are doing.

  3. Lori Schnepp says

    This is a beautiful poem! Made me cry a little when I read it. It states exactly what I feel. Thank you for the wonderful words! My son is being deployed to Afghanistan in January 2013 and I am very concerned for him and his fellow soldiers. He is in the Army.
    Please say a prayer for all of their safety!

  4. Natalie Hagy says

    I really love the poam.. My son is in Afghanistan now, & sometimes it’s real hard to keep the tears in while talking to him, As for every1 else im kinda a wreck when my son is mentioned.. Wich is why I have not contacted no support groups until now.. Im doing better now, I feel im haveing a real hard time bcuz my son came to live with me for a while before he left, so I really felt like, I just got him back, only to loose him again.. But hearing his voice, for myself telling me he’s ok is a big help.. My son loves his Fiance so much I believe that’s was gonna carry him safely on this Journey until his return home..

  5. Mary Triplett says

    I couldn’t help but read your poem and start crying from the start. For it brings back 2 and soon to be 3 generations of soldiers in my family. In WW 2 it was my Dad who enlisted into the Army, then Korea saw both his brother join the military as officers. How Grandmother let my Dad go at 17 I’ll never know- but she was the epitamy of what it means to be Army Strong. She’d survived losing her husband when my Dad was but 9 years old, taught 53 years in high school and saw many boys leave for duty,. She cared for all of them. Then when it was my turn you’d have to change the title to Army Dad because my Dad was more proud of me than my Mother was when I enlisted after graduating college into the Army. I chose enlisting so I would be a better officer. Now, it’s my turn and I’m definitely in tears this graduation year. I’ve been the Army mom on my high school campus – where I substitute teach- having been with our JROTC unit for 7 years now. I’ve watched 7 years of cadets join the military but this year above all of them hits hard- for this is the year that my youngest son graduates and leaves for the Army. Along with him 15 other cadets which I’ve grown to love as sons and daughters. They’ve watched me carry on through impossible times- times where I could barely walk and yet still went with them to every drill competition, every dinner, every activity. I’m disabled but I keep trudging through to the point where they have had to force me to sit down. This year above all I say good-bye and pass the torch on to 15 men and women who are like my son, and whom I know will serve our country with pride.
    To every Military Mom- no matter what branch- thank for being there for us soldiers. Remember ladies that once a soldier puts on the uniform we are not blue, green, or white, we are tri-colored we are red. white and blue! We are America’s FINEST!

  6. Michelle says

    Thank you so much for this. My son is in boot camp right now and I got a letter from him saying that he’s let me down because he’s not trying his best because he’s so depressed. My heart is aching to hug him and tell he could never let me down, that I love him more than life itself and am proud of him simply because he’s my son. I miss my baby and it’s killing me inside. I’m trying to soldier on in my own way, but my baby is hurting and I can’t be there to comfort him.

  7. Carmen Collazo says

    Thank you so much for your poem…I have two of my three boys serving our country, and thou I am so proud of their accomplishments I cry every single day, just missing them and wishing they were home…the not hearing from them every now and then keeps me up some nights…wondering if their ok or if they are thinking of me as well…wondering if they are keeping up with their prayers, if they even shed tears cause they miss home…:( I can’t wait to hod them in my arms again…<3

  8. Holly says

    Michelle, I feel your pain as I am going thru the same thing. My son left Wed and is now at boot camp. He called me today to give me his address, which was a 2 min call and when I heard his voice I knew he was hurting and home sick. I wont be sleeping again tonite as my thoughts of him alone and being so unsure of what is happening. Your post was last month has anything changed with your son. I hope he has adpated as I pray for my son too. I know as time goes on it should be easier????
    Loved to hear from you.

  9. Tami Essary says

    Just read this poem. Beautiful. My son hasn’t even left for basic yet. He leaves on june 10th, 9 days after he graduates high school. He will be do basic in Missouri (Fort Leonard Wood) After that he will go to San Antonio to start his training for combat medic. I am already so emotional, and feel so scared and alone. I know he is doing what is best for his future, but I hate this already and it hasn’t even started.

  10. Amie Norris says

    I received my call & my body went numb. That was April 2, 2013. My son is being deployed this year. We have raised smart & capable young men. This is the job they chose. Prayers are with you come June & all mothers whose children are preparing to go.

  11. says

    Thank you for such a beautiful poem. My son left this week for Alfgan. He is my baby boy. Could not share how my heart feels to anyone don’t think they would understand. This poem said it all. May God’s protection be with all our military men and women.
    Ps 91

  12. Jackie says

    Wonderful poem, thank you for publishing it for all of us moms. My son is currently in US Army in Afghanistan serving his first tour of duty. With our faith and prayers from others, we are able to stay strong for our soldier, who is enduring more than we are left behind. Pray for peace…

  13. Kathy Moorman says

    My son graduated from basic in March 2012 and is leaving on first deployment June 2013. Can’t even describe what is going on in the pit of my stomach. What is most difficult is that it is so hard to really put into words how I am feeling and the swell of pride I feel for his decision to defend our country. Despite my pride, I am so terrified for him. I came across this website accidentally and love the poem. Thank you for this outlet….. I pray for our men and women everyday. God Bless.

  14. Brenda Sims says

    Thank you for sharing this! My son is leaving for his second tour tomorrow. My heart aches right now! I can’t sleep, I can’t eat and you think it would be easier with it being his 2nd time, but its not! He is my only child, with a 2 year old boy of his own, and I pray every day that he comes home safe!

  15. Sharon Lambes says

    What a beautiful poem! I have just recently became an Army soldiers mom. My son was just sworn in this afternoon, and my heart is breaking. He leaves for basic training in Nov 2013 and I can barely stand to think about him going. I’m so very proud and know that this is a good thing but its so hard. I send hugs and prayers to all of you.

  16. Nicole says

    My son graduated from his AIT and now moving on to his assignment. I am extremely proud of my son. Every goodbye that I say to him gets more and more difficult. I feel so selfish for not wanting to let him go! My smile of pride camouflages my heart full of tears. This poem says exactly what I’ve been feeling! Thank you!

  17. Misty Keathley says

    My son left for Basic a week ago today. We still havent heard from him. Its making me completely crazy. Iam conatantly sick over it. I just wanna hear his voice. He Is only 19 and never been away from us. I cant sleep..I am holding My phone in My hand scared iam gonna miss his call.

  18. Lisa says

    This poem is so true. Here I am, laying awake many nights, wondering if I will get a call that my son is being deployed. With the Syrian conflict, the fear is real for us, as mothers, who although understand and respect our children’s service, still feel our hearts being pulled out every time we hear another news story or see an article about war. We try to live life and put our feelings aside, but the worry is there and pushes into our souls no matter how much we shove it away.

  19. Jackie B says

    On Sept 16,2013 my son left to the army. My son is only 18 yrs old. Never did I really know what soliders mothers are going through till my son left. Sleepless nights and a lot of tears. This is just the beginning for me. My son tells me to be strong mom. I am going to try to make a difference in this world. I really want to protect what we have here at home. That makes me a proud mom of a american solider. To all that are serving thank you so much. God bless u all. I pray one day to have peace around the world.

  20. Loretta Dillow says

    This is a lovely poem! My son is in the army and currently deployed in July 2013 to Afghanistan first tour. I am proud that he is my son. I miss him so much and not a moment goes by that I don’t think about him. Praying all soldiers will come home safely. I am a mom trying through faith and lots of prayers to stay strong while he is gone. God bless our troops!!

  21. Cathy Wallace says

    I wait here at home as my son makes his good-by rounds to friends. He leaves tomorrow for Fort Leonard Wood and will be there until March 2014. Even though he has chosen the Reserves, it still hurts to let my baby go. My heart goes out those parents whose sons and daughters have been deployed.
    I wonder if I would be this sad if he were only going off to college…the hardest part of this is not hearing his voice every day, we have been such a close family.
    I am tremendously proud of him for choosing to be a civilian soldier, doing his part as a community member, yet ready if needed to serve. He is a strong and kind young man, with an easy smile and a loyal heart. His favorite holiday is Christmas, and he’s made us promise to have the house decorated when he comes home during the holiday exodus. The holidays will be complete only when I can hug him again, and look into his beautiful blue eyes.

  22. G Petetson says

    My son is in Kandahar Afghanistan, I was terrified when I find out that he was going to be transfer from Germany to Afghanistan. I couldn’t sleep for weeks just thinking of all the danger he was going to be exposed.
    Thank you so much for your poem. It describes our feeling as Army Moms.
    I’m very proud of him. I pray for him and all his army brothers every day.
    God keep them safe.

  23. rosemarie says

    My son was suppose to leave to Afghanistan in April but he told me he has a 50/50 chance of leaving now . I am scared and worry alot. I love this poem .I am proud of him may God bless him and his brothers and sisters and keep them safe

  24. amy says

    My son just left yesterday for basic, in the past year he has graduated high school moved out moved back in and out again he just married his girlfriend this past Monday before he ships out for basic. I was unable to see him off because of my health issues. I am so lost without my son I knew that the day was coming but i just cant get through this. I just pray that he does really well in basic in Oklahoma then he is going to ft sam houston. He has only been gone for 24 hours and I cant wait to hear from him again,

  25. Israeli soldier's MOM says

    I have a daughter in the army as well, she is in Israel. My hearts and prayers go out to all of you

  26. Marlene says

    This poem is everything I am feeling and more. My son just left for basic and I am so lost. I feel like I am in a fog. I don’t know how or what to do. I am so very proud of him but I have this awful feeling in the pit of my stomach. We have had the normal mom and dad and son difficulties in raising him and helping him grow but this has got to be the most difficult right now. I have the same feeling as the moms on this blog and I dont’ know what to do with them. I am so terrified for him. Tears just flow. Thank you so much for your poem. God bless all of our men and women everyday and god bless their families.

  27. says

    Yesterday was Memorial Day and next week June 1 will be my son’s birthday. I wanted to be happy but instead had a roller coaster of feelings after contemplating my Army soldiers on the wall in my house, my dad (Korean War), my brother (Vietnam war). My youngest brother who did not go to Vietnam because that horrible war had ended and who has yet to retire from Army. Now, my son has followed their footsteps. I am so proud to be his mother. I just want to say as i was looking on the web for a poem, this was the first one i read and it bought me to tears. Thanks Ms. Gibbs for this comforting poem. I now understand what i was going through and that I am not alone. I am a proud Army mom. God bless our soldiers and kept them safe.

  28. Jeniffer A says

    I cried when I read the poem.my 18year old only son is leaving for bootcamp this sunday. It breaks my heart but I know his passion is so much in doing this.i know that he will be safe in Gods arms and I pray for all those who choose to serve our country and their families.

  29. LISA clark says

    I also got that call…the one ya knw is coming but the one you don’t wanna get!!! my sons already over in the sandbox! Missing him so badly! trying to stay army strong…. but wht mom can truly be 100% strong… I knew it’s was gonna happen frm tree he day he went to BCT! but It doesn’t really prepare a mom for this…… I’m spa very proud & I knw we raised a strong & smart man! It’s even harder when he’s an identical twin & when I see his younger twin it’s makes it’s so much more difficult! Come home safe my son!

  30. says

    A friend of a friend shared this with me today. My boy is in BCT right now (Army Reserves). I miss his sprawling napping body on my couch every afternoon. I miss the peanut butter smeared knives in the sink after his 11 p.m. snack. I miss telling him to clean up his room. I hate seeing his empty truck sitting there waiting for him. I miss his goofy, mischievous laugh that makes me think I should figure out why exactly he is laughing. Heh.

    BUT. BUT. I am so proud of his path. Following his dream. Committing his heart and mind to his task. He was born for this. Hard-wired by God to be a man of justice and order and courage.

    Thanks for this. It’s beautiful and I shared it with some friends.

  31. Nicole D. Morava says

    I am currently deployed in Afghanistan. Been here since January 2014. I work on Apache helicopters for the US ARMY. I was searching for a poem of some sorts… To give to my mother, to remind her of the pains I go through everyday I haven’t heard from her since I’ve left home. It kills me to be here everyday, not seeming to get any support from my family back home. People say, “a simple care package or letter helps you make it through the days…” Just knowing someone back home is supporting you can make a huge difference in your day while we are so far away. Having my spouse back home to support me where others may fail brings hope to my heart that people do care! I miss home, just as the soldiers next to me do also!

    This is just a word of advice from a daughter of two parents, who made the choice to serve Our Country. To all the parents, brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents, ALL FAMILY MEMBERS OF ALL SOLDIERS, share your love for your family. Tell them everyday! Make sure your soldier knows you fully support them back home! A letter, a care package, emails, texts, calls, Facebook. It doesn’t matter how you communicate. Just do it. It will make a DIFFERENCE in Our days over here!

    Thank you for all who have supported the Troops!

    ‘Till they all come home,
    PFC Morava
    4-101/D. Co

  32. Karen says

    My first born and only son has been at boot camp for 3 weeks now and i just don’t know what to feel.

  33. Sharyl says

    My son has started BCT on Tuesday. I am Proud of him Just turning 18 and graduating then off to the Army within 3 months time… Seems like a lot has happened in three months. I miss him very much. He is my first born and only son also.

  34. Tammy says

    My son left for boot camp 2 weeks ago, I finally go to talk to him for 15 minutes last night which was a wonderful surprise! But it is so hard to think that I won’t see him until Christmas! My heart is breaking and I miss him so much I cannot image what other moms are going through when their children are leaving for Afghanistan!
    Thank you for this website and sharing your poem. I have been feeling so alone and helpless but it nice to see that I am not, that other Mothers feel the same way.

  35. Ingrid says

    I have come to this site a couple of times. The comment by PFC Morava brought tears to my eyes. I can’t imagine how heartbreaking it must be for a female soldier not to hear from her mother while serving in the military. I hope she hears from her soon.
    My son completed basic training last year and is now stationed in Tennessee. I didn’t stand in the way of his decision! He has to be his own person/man. I don’t want to raise a son who clings to me all the time and who feels like he can’t do anything without me. Since I love him, I can’t be selfish, I had to set him free. After all my goal was to raise my boys to become MEN who can make their own rational decisions. He has the full support of his fleshy and church family! I leave him in God’s care because He is in control!

    Hang in there mothers and be there for your sons and daughters who are brave and courageous enough to serve our country. God bless and keep them all!!!

  36. says

    My son signs tomorrow And leaves on feb 3rd. I feel like I’m drowning! I’ve cried non stop since Friday! Help? Anyone!!! I feel like my heat is literally breaking in two! No one in my family understands. They all make jokes and laugh and I secretly die a little more inside! Never felt this way before.

  37. says

    My son left for boot camp on February 18th. I feel like a part of my heart has died. I cry all the time. I received three letters from him now and each letter states how much he misses me and how homesick he is. My hurt is hurting so bad because for the first time I’m not able to be there to comfort him and wrap my arms around him. This is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to go through.

  38. Sandra Hartford says

    My son graduated boot camp in Columbia SC the day before Thanksgiving 2014. It was so very hard to let him leave. The beginning of boot camp was so hard. I tried to at least mail something everyday, even if it was lame.. It gets easier when they can start calling. Hang in there. Let them know they have all of your support. That’s our job. Most of us let our children go right out of high school and that was scary. When I saw the change in my son, well, it was just amazing. As much as my heart hurts that he is away there is also a heart full of overwhelming pride. I am not saying it will be easy…every day does get a little easier, especially when you can hear from them how well they are doing. They cannot be worrying about home. Hang in there. We all have to be ARMY STRONG!

  39. Lynette Alva says

    This poem touched me deeply… It described a mother beautifully & what we feel. I have both my sons serving in the Army so you can image the changes my life has been but for me it has also been a blessing. My sons both needed structure after a divorce. They both are excelling in there finding new challenges, triumphs, new experiences & becoming men before my eyes. I miss them everyday but I also know they are exactly where they need to be with God’s covering. I am so thankful for social media, cell phones & the Internet which keeps us connected. Image the mothers before us who didn’t have those tools! God Bless all of you! #armymom #armystrong

  40. Nellie says

    My youngest son just left for basic training at ft Leonard woods. His 19th birthday is June 7. I’m missing my baby boy so much. I just want to hold him. He is making mom proud but I just can’t stop crying. Thank you for the poem.

  41. Sheena K says

    My son went to boot camp a week after he graduated from high school. I still have the balloons he received from his girlfriend and the ones for his go away party and it’s been five weeks! I heard from him last Sunday and I was overjoyed. He said he is fine and gave me his address. I feel better but my sleep is still kind of weird but I know I will be okay. I pray and don’t feel guilt about any emotion because after all he is my only son. I sometimes feel people get tired of me talking about him and reminding me why he is there. I know but let me feel the way I want to feel. My own mom ask me why did I cry when he left. Umm I’m a mom I told her. Coming to see to this site does not make me feel as alone. Enjoying hearing these stories and I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers.

  42. barb says

    love this poem too. My son is home for christmas break. He left in Sept and it has been quite the journey. hearing of hardships and lonliness and not being able to help. short phone calls and waiting for a letter. God truly was the strength of my heart. I found comfort in His word and a peace that surpasses all my pain. An anchor to hold on to and promises that are true. Something I could pass on to my son in his time of need. Something stronger than myself. I pray you all find it too.

  43. Jolene says

    I have read your emails. I am feeling so much the same. I cried for a week when my son left for boot camp my job actually sent to work from home. He has been in now for 3 years and I appreciate d that he was able to stay in New York I am in lots angeles I felt at least he is close. By the way he has a wife and daughter my grandbaby . I learned today they will be going to Germany their first choice. Alaska close r to me. My choice. Or KOrea. I amhj both excited for them as they will have new experiences but heartbroken because they are so far away. I kind of miss the days when my baby was young and I could protect him. Although I am so very proud of the man he has become

  44. Michele Bizzi says

    I am so thrilled to have found this site! My son left yesterday for Basic Training and it’s been the longest day of my life! I have mixed emotions. His father & I are very proud of his decision, but I miss him terribly. I honestly feel like someone kicked me in the stomach and my heart aches. I thought are my feelings unusual? Do all Military Mom’s feel this way or am I being way too emotional? I can see from all these posts I am not and the feelings are normal. I am sure with time it will get easier. Right now I am just trying to wait patiently to get the phone call & hopefully the address, so I can write him with positive encouragement. Thank you everyone for sharing your stories. You will be be in my prayers.

  45. Marcie says

    Thank you for this poem. It defiantely hits home as my son was deployed 2 months ago. I pray every day for his safety. He is my only son, my baby boy, one of the loves of my life. Dear Lord, please bring him home whole and safe. Amen.

  46. Cindy says

    Love this poem. Crying while I am reading it, hits the nail on the head. Also love Gang Momma’s response. So very true, it’s the little things I miss. My only son quit college and joined the Army a year and a half ago. I wish I could say it has gotten easier but it hasn’t. Walking by his empty room and a quiet house only serves to remind me. He will be deployed till the end of the month and I will be glad he is back in the US. Very hard to describe to anyone your feelings unless they have been through it. It has been the hardest year and a half of my life.

  47. Kim says

    My son, 19, is in Afghanistan, finishing up a first tour. Home is in sight but as I write this, the world is quickly changing before our eyes in the last two weeks. He just got back to a safe zone from a mission that wasn’t planned, wasn’t safe. He is safe now at the moment. The election is just 3 1/2 weeks away and Russia is flexing it’s muscles in a way we’ve not seen yet. I know all too well that in this season we are in, coming home doesn’t guarantee months of getting to be here before another tour and, another tour over….. well,……. I don’t need to say it. We all know. We don’t talk about it but we are all too aware. We smile and try to be strong. We just have moments we aren’t as strong as we want to be, as brave as we want to be and we are all too aware of how precious life really is and the time we have with those we love.
    PFC Nicole Morova, I bet your rank is higher now. Your words touched me. I know it is hard for the troops there. Thank you for your service! So many of us deeply appreciate and value those of you we don’t even personally know and we want you safe and home too! We will keep sending letters, packages, loving words, strong words to those we don’t know as well as our own because many of us do know it makes a difference! :) Thanks you for reminding us.

  48. Carly Buchanan says

    I just stumbled upon this site & poem. After reading the poem, with tears rolling down my face, I started reading the previous comments.

    My oldest son has been at Ft. Leonardwood since 4/4/17. I have heard from him twice. It really is hard to combine and pride I feel with the sadness of him not being here.

    It IS strange to walk into his bedroom, to find it empty. To not see him laying in the bed or in the kitchen. To not be able to pick up the phone and speak to him, not be able to text a quick “hey” to him.

    Yesterday was Easter. My first holiday without him. I have written many letters, have scripture to enclose in each letter, and funny little notes of encouragement….even though I haven’t received a mailing address yet.

    But, I do not let myself cry (at least in public). I am not the first mom to watch my son take his oath to defend our country. I will definitely not be the last. I am proud to call myself an Army Mom. After reading these comments, I am extremely proud to be a part of this small group of women. You may be the only people that I will discuss my feelings with, but I know I am in good company.

    Thank each of you for your service and the service of your child/ren.

  49. Kimberly A VanDorn says

    My son has been in almost two years but I remember like it was yesterday, the emotions of having my son newly join and be gone from home, trying to figure out a new normal. I will tell you that the deep friendships from my fellow Army Moms on various pages have been a God send! I can’t imagine doing this without them in every season of this military life! Likewise, we are here for you to be your shoulder to cry on, encourage you, cheer with you and be proud with you. Please feel free to reply back whenever you need and if you haven’t already, find a Facebook support group for Army Mom’s.


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